Wedding Wednesday: Angela Garbot Photography

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What is one thing I’ve learned from the wedding planning process? There are WAY too many vendor selections in Charlotte! The photographer search was certainly one of our tougher decisions. We emailed, called, blog stalked and even had two ‘interviews’ (including a beer date at Common Market) with our top two choices. At the end of the whirlwind process, we still were as unsure about who to pick as we were at the beginning. At the end of the day, your pictures are really the only thing you have to show for the 9+ months of planning and five-figure party you’ve thrown (besides a lifetime of wedded bliss). Our pictures are SO important to us because they will be the one thing we have when our memories begin to fail us. They will be part of the album that we pull out on anniversaries, and fill the pages that our children will one day look through. All that to say that finding the perfect photographer was a daunting task.

At the end of the day, we decided on Angie from Angela Garbot Photography. Angie is based out of Chicago which might have some of you wondering how on Earth we decided on someone from Illinois. Angie shot my sisters wedding a little over two years ago (Happy Anniversary W&B!). We know, without a shadow of a doubt, that Angie’s work is amazing, and that is why we had no hesitation with selecting her. She has offered to come to Charlotte to do our engagement session (in just a few weeks, eek!)….until then, I’ll leave you with just a small sample of some of the stunning pictures she took during my sisters wedding.

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1. Our attention span is now less than that of a goldfishHumans have become so obsessed with portable devices and overwhelmed by content that we now have attention spans shorter than that of the previously jokingly juxtaposed goldfish. In 2000 the average attention span was 12 seconds, but this has now fallen to just eight. The goldfish is believed to be able to maintain a solid nine. Awesome.

2. Find Out What Your Name Would be if You Were Born Today: An interesting Time Magazine tool tells you what your name would be if you were born today, and then all the way back to the 1890’s. Apparently I turned into a boy in the 20’s and 30’s?

  • Caitlin was the 44th most popular girl’s name in 1988 (the year I was born)
  • My name today would be: Claire
  • My 2000’s name is: Laura
  • My 1990’s name is: Paige
  • My 1980’s name is : Kathleen
  • My 1970’s name is: Carolyn
  • My 1960’s name is: Joan
  • My 1950’s name is: Lynn
  • My 1940’s name is: Rosemary
  • My 1930’s name is: Billie
  • My 1920’s name is: Willie
  • My 1910’s name is: Rosa
  • My 1900’s name is: Dora
  • My 1890’s name is: Sallie

3. Wells Fargo Tournament: This is one of our favorite weekends of the year and will be our 4th annual. We had just started dating the first year we went and had the best time. I look forward to this weekend just because all the great memories we make (and seeing Rory and Adam Scott isn’t too bad either…)

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4.Unroll.Me: I have a secondary email that I use when buying things, subscribing to things, etc. because of all the emails that tend to flood your inbox after doing the aforementioned activities. My yahoo account now gets over 100 emails a day, mostly all junk. Unroll.me is the easiest way to manage your inbox. Unsubscribe from unwanted email subscriptions, discover new ones and organize them all in one place. AHHH!

5. Custom Wedding Dress: Not sure if I mentioned this in a previous post, but I am getting my wedding dress made by a custom dress maker. I went this week for my first fitting. We have a lot of tweaks to make, but it was so special for my mom and sister to be there. My sister won’t probably see the dress again until it’s final so I was glad she got to be there to see the first iteration. Things are finally starting to feel real!!!

Wedding Wednesday: Premarital Counseling

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We are both very excited that my childhood Pastor Steve will be officiating our wedding. He also officiated my sisters wedding which is pretty cool that we’re “keeping it in the family”. We will complete two or three premarital counseling sessions with him once we get closer to October. While I’m sure they will be insightful and helpful, we both felt like we needed some more substantial counseling prior to the big day.

Let me preface this all by saying that Matt and I both agree we have a very solid relationship. We have done almost everything possible to ensure we are set-up for a lifetime of happiness. I think a lot of people automatically assume there is trouble in paradise if you’re seeing a counselor. The way I think of it is this…we invest in our health, we invest in our finances, we’ve invested in our education, we invest in our friends and family, we invest in our careers…why would we not do all that we can to invest in our marriage as well?

If you ever google “Premarital Counseling Dilworth” you will be bombarded by the amount of results that are returned. So how do you pick the “right” counselor? Many times this is where a good recommendation from a friend comes in. Unfortunately, we didn’t have any, so we started from scratch. It’s hard to know if you’ll connect with a counselor and it’s really hard to tell from their website or a brief conversation. You often won’t know if there is “chemistry” until you go to a few sessions. A good counselor will let you know if he/she doesn’t think they are the right fit for you. We ended up going to a guy we knew very little about with the agreement that if he wasn’t the right fit, we would find someone else. So far we have been impressed. You can also get a list of in-network doctors from your insurance company, and also http://www.psychologytoday.com has a great “Find a Therapist” tool.

Our first session was very introductory so that we could get to know the counselor and vice versa. He asked a lot of great questions. Some I knew the answer to right away, and some that really made me think. One question that really stands out was when he asked “Why get married? In today’s society it’s completely OK to live with someone, or buy a house, or even have a child without being married. So why are you choosing to get married?”. He also asked “Why Matt?” and “Why Caitlin?”. I make it a point to tell Matt all the reasons I love him, but know that I often fall short on this. I know Matt loves me with his entire heart, but it was really cool to hear him verbalize why he does.

Our therapist has 8 or so main topics we will cover; everything from finances to parenting, to sex, household chores, relationships with in-laws, communication and trust. I know we’ve had a lot of conversations around these topics, but I think it will be good to have a third party really push us. Our therapist had some really great points that I thought I would share:

  • 67% of arguments that couples have DON’T have a resolution….meaning cooperation is the key here. Also, keep small things small
  • 95% of marriages that end, end within their first 6 years
  • We all have an “emotional bank account” – for every one “withdraw” you take from your partner, it requires five “deposits”

I think we both walked into the session with a bit a hesitation. For Matt, he thought we would leave the session with a list of reasons why our relationship wasn’t solid, or loopholes the therapist found, or tough conversations that needed to be had. We both walked away with a completely different view. We walked away feeling like our relationship is just as solid (and maybe even more) than we had thought. Our therapist really applauded us for coming to counseling before there are issues. Most couples he see’s are in the midst of life changing decisions and/or a lot of heartbreak and pain. He also suggested we come back to see him once or a twice a year once we are married to check-in and recalibrate if needed. All in all, it was a great experience and I know I’m already looking forward to our next session.

Your smartphone may be tracking your every move

There are many advantages of not leaving the house until 8:30am (now if only I could convince my boss of this), one of which is catching the latest Rossen Report on The Today Show.

This week Jeff reported that Apple and Android phones have a setting that could be tracking your every move, location by location, and the exact times you were there. This setting is buried deep down in the phone and I didn’t even know it existed. Probably one of the terms I agreed to without reading a single word. Upon locating this setting, my top 4 locations were:

  • Work
  • Home
  • Hilliard
  • Bad Daddy’s

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Pretty darn accurate……Also scary, why I have had more visits to work than I have home??

To disable this setting on the phone follow the following steps: Privacy > Location Services > System Services > Frequent Locations > Slide Frequent Locations to “off” position

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It has been quite some time since I participated in this fun game…so here we go:

1. Kentucky Derby: Looking forward to celebrating our fourth Derby together. The first year unfortunately fell the day after Cinco de Mayo which might as well be Cinco de Hangover. I spent the entire day laid up on the couch betting (& barfing). Luckily my maturity has greatly increased since then as I try to become a classy & functioning part of society. Getting my own Jefferson Cups might have been the highlight of my 2013…This year we are having a few friends over and have some fun betting games planned {come on big money, momma needs some wedding money}. Which horse are you feeling lucky about?

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2. Weekend at Home: Before last weekend we hadn’t had a weekend in town without something to do in 6 weeks. Scatter in work travel in between that and you get one homesick little CMH. This weekend we are in town with very few plans except for a few wedding appointments and I could not be any happier. Home is where the heart is.

3. Bad Daddy’s: Did you all see that Bad Daddy’s was sold to a Colorado-based restaurant group for $21 million?? Please just promise not to tinker with my tots and milkshake.

4. Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros: I started listening to this Pandora station after a suggestion from my hair dresser. I heard this song while driving back from Atlanta and can’t stop listening to it. Great station to listen to at work if you aren’t in a Hip Hop BBQ mood.

5. CharlotteFive: CharlotteFive is a the Charlotte version of The Skimm. Each morning at 7am CharlotteFive publishes the top 5 news and entertainment stories to get you up-to-date on all the QC happenings. You can visit their website or have their newsletter automatically delivered to your inbox. Great way to stay in-the-know.