It seems like more than ever lately I’ve been getting THE Question…”When are you and Matt getting engaged???”
Just this week alone I’ve been asked by three separate people; including my hair stylist who went as far as to offer to call different wedding venues in Charlotte to see if they still have Spring 2015 dates available should we get engaged in the next few months. Um, WHAT! Without fail, every Monday morning my admin asks to see my hand just to check if a ring magically appeared over the weekend. Lately I’ve been hearing that some of Matt’s friends have bets with each other on when it will happen.
Hears the thing, I’m flattered that people care enough about our relationship to ask or to even care. But it puts SO much pressure on something that is supposed to happen organically. Also, this is Matt’s decision to decide when and where, and I can assure you this is not information I will be privy to before it happens.
Don’t get me wrong, I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with this amazing man and would marry him tomorrow…BUT I also don’t want to rush through enjoying just dating and enjoying this season of our lives. We have plenty of time to spend together in wedded bliss, but the dating period only lasts a few years.
In full transparency, I get wrapped up in it too. I have to realize that it will happen EXACTLY when it’s supposed to and that me speculating when it’s going to happen is not going to speed anything up. It finally hit me the other day that all the time I’ve spent talking about it or thinking about it, I’ve rarely spent the time to pray about it, or pray for us. I haven’t been praying nearly enough for my future marriage or for the man that I hope will be my husband one day. I think about things. I discuss things. I plan things. I “pin” things. I work on things. And then I discuss things some more. But talking about things and thinking about things and working on things… these are not at all the same as praying for them. So when I’m feeling anxious about making plans or fielding inquiries I am going to instead focus on Proverbs 31:10-31 – the Hymn to a Good Wife.
Hymn to a Good Wife
10-31 A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!